Perfectionist / Perfectionism

"Perfectionism is a Pain in the Butt" said Arlene Harder, MA, MFT.

Equation 1 :

Perfectionism = Pain in the butt

People who strive to be perfect and nth else = Perfectionist = perfectionism

So,

Perfectionist are a pain in the butt.

So what is the meaning of Perfectionist or Perfectionism?

According to http://www.wordreference.com/definition/perfectionist

Perfectionist :

1. a person is displeased by anything that does not meet very high standards

According to http://www.yourdictionary.com/perfectionism

Perfectionism :

1. any doctrine that holds that moral, religious, or social perfection can and should be attained in this life
2. extreme or obsessive striving for perfection, as in one's work

Here are the main 10 traits of a PERFECTIONIST:

All-Or-Nothing Thinking:

Perfectionists, like high achievers, tend to set high goals and work hard toward them. However, a high achiever can be satisfied with doing a great job and achieving excellence (or something close), even if their very high goals aren’t completely met. Perfectionists will accept nothing less than, well, perfection. ‘Almost perfect’ is seen as failure.

Critical Eye:

Perfectionists are far more critical of themselves and of others than are high achievers. While high achievers take pride in their accomplishments and tend to be supportive of others, perfectionists tend to spot tiny mistakes and imperfections in their work and in themselves, as well as in others and their work. They hone in on these imperfections and have trouble seeing anything else, and they’re more judgmental and hard on themselves and on others when ‘failure’ does occur.

“Push” vs “Pull”:

High achievers tend to be pulled toward their goals by a desire to achieve them, and are happy with any steps made in the right direction. Perfectionists, on the other hand, tend to be pushed toward their goals by a fear of not reaching them, and see anything less than a perfectly met goal as a failure.

Unrealistic Standards:

Unfortunately, a perfectionist’s goals aren’t always even reasonable. While high achievers can set their goals high, perhaps enjoying the fun of going a little further once goals are reached, perfectionists often set their initial goals out of reach. Because of this, high achievers tend to be not only happier, but more successful than perfectionists in the pursuit of their goals.

Focus on Results:

High achievers can enjoy the process of chasing a goal as much or more than the actual reaching of the goal itself. Conversely, perfectionists see the goal and nothing else. They’re so concerned about meeting the goal and avoiding the dreaded failure that they can’t enjoy the process of growing and striving.

Depressed by Unmet Goals:

Perfectionists are much less happy and easygoing than high achievers. While high achievers are able to bounce back fairly easily from disappointment, perfectionists tend to beat themselves up much more and wallow in negative feelings when their high expectations go unmet.

Fear of Failure:

Perfectionists are also much more afraid to fail than are high achievers. Because they place so much stock in results and become so disappointed by anything less than perfection, failure becomes a very scary prospect. And, since anything less than perfection is seen as ‘failure’, this can lead to…

Procrastination:

It seems paradoxical that perfectionists would be prone to procrastination, as that trait can be detrimental to productivity, but perfectionism and procrastination do tend to go hand in hand. This is because, fearing failure as they do, perfectionists will sometimes worry so much about doing something imperfectly that they become immobilized and fail to do anything at all! This leads to more feelings of failure, and a vicious cycle is thus perpetuated.

Defensiveness:

Because a less-than-perfect performance is so painful and scary to perfectionists, they tend to take constructive criticism defensively, while high achievers can see criticism as valuable information to help their future performance.

Low Self Esteem:

High achievers tend to have equally high esteem; not so with perfectionists. They tend to be very self-critical and unhappy, and suffer from low self-esteem. They can also be lonely or isolated, as their critical nature and rigidity can push others away as well. This can lead to lower self-esteem.

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The results? I'm not even close to being one.

Why do I bother creating this post? Because I hate perfectionist, they take away most things in life.

This post has a sole purpose, and that is to let you know if your a perfectionist or not.

Unknowingly you may be, and don't know why others hate you, maybe its cause you don't know that your a perfectionist. After reading some articles online, it seems that being a perfectionist is a psychological disease/sickness. The best way to cure it is by the person's on will to change & stop being a perfectionist.

You'd be surprised to how many people search the net for a cure to perfectionism. It's a good thing in moderate or little quantities, but a toxin when you go overboard with it!!


CREDITS :

To the particular websites, and authors. I claim no credits for the factual stuff, besides just compiling them into this post.